My mother grew up with brothers. No sister. I grew up with a brother. No sister. We have both been blessed to have friendships that feel like a sisterhood. Last year my best friend of over 30 years had to say goodbye to her mom right after Christmas. Today, right before Christmas, my mom will say her final goodbye to her friend of over 40 years.
Last night I had dinner with a dear friend and we exchanged Christmas gifts (something we don't always do). The gifts we gave each other were thoughtful and showed just how well we know each other. It reminded me of my mom's friendship with Nancy.... the kind of evening they would spend together.
In this day and age of temporary and immediate gratification, and people relocating everywhere, how many friendships last almost half a century? My mother still lives in the house I grew up in. Up until she passed away, Nancy lived in the house she raised her children in - a house right up the street from my mom.
Gail and Nancy shared a special bond, a bond that began as neighbors and strengthened into a close, loving, supportive friendship that stood the test of time.
I wish so much I could be there today..... to support my mother. To honor Nancy. To comfort her family. Instead, all I can do is pray for them, send my love, and honor her here.
My mom sent this to me this week.... something she wrote and read to Nancy during one of her visits with her friend before she passed. (Obviously I inherited my writing talent from her). I asked if I could share it on here, because it's beautiful. It's from the heart. It's touching. And it honors a friendship that lasted almost as long as I've been alive.
Beautiful Nancy…….my friend for 42 years…..instant connection, friendship, kindred spirits.
I always will be texting two cups of coffee with you on Saturday mornings – you in your kitchen, me in mine;
Always will be walking in town with you….sharing thoughts, dreams, feelings, loves ….. many people asking us over the years if we are sisters;
Always will be toasting each other with Champagne Truffles in front of the chocolatier on The Channel Gardens in Rockefeller Center…awed by The Tree;
Always will be sitting in the Garden Café with you…..talking about life and our precious children and grandchildren;
And, always will be sitting in the outdoor bar at the Lazy Swan…..laughing, drinking wine, drinking in the views of our majestic Catskill Mountains, singing along as Frankie plays “Summer Wind.”
I have not lived my adult life without you ….. but, I will find my way…..knowing that you are watching over me as you sit on the “God shelf” and your spirit is forever surrounding me.
Nancy sent me this quote on October 17, 2017 and it defines how she lived her life.….full of Grace:
"Grace is a power that comes in and transforms a moment to something better." -- Caroline Myss We are all better human beings because Nancy came into our lives.
I can no longer see you with my eyes but I will feel you in my heart forever.
I love you, Nancy
Nancy was a kind, gentle, incredibly beautiful woman inside and out. The world is a better place for her having been in it. My life is better for having grown up with her in it. My mom's life has been enriched beyond measure by the kind of friendship most people never get to experience. I'm grateful, and I'm so sad.
Rest in peace Nancy. You were appreciated, you were loved, and you will be missed.